Hi there. This popped up on the random read and review and I thought I'd share my thoughts on it.
Reading your words brought me back to those with dementia that I have encountered. I once did in-home healthcare where I took care of elderly, many of which had dementia. Many of the things you describe, like the lack of eating are common with those with the disorder.
Like you express, it is a huge toll on the family. Though, I also see it in a different light too. It is traumatic for those who are experiencing it too.
You mention that you give her one word explanations when she asks what you are talking about. Hopefully you are kind when you do so. She may not remember it in after a while, but at that moment she does and her emotions are still very real.
Interesting that she wants people to do things for her. From my experience, most want to do things themselves when they really shouldn't. I found that giving them the allusion of control worked well in compensating them and helping to get them to do things they need to do.
For example, one lady I took care of, the family claimed nobody could get her to take a shower. The reason was is because they were speaking to her like a child, telling her to do it, rather than giving her choices. My solution was to go for a walk with her. She loved walks and there was a donkey around the corner that she loved to pet. When we got back to her home I would say, "Eww, I smell like B.O. and like that donkey." Then she would say, "Oh, so do I. I'm taking a shower." So, I manipulated her into doing what she needed to do, without taking her choices away.
Reading about your family member, I thought to myself, this woman seems sweet. When you express that she likes to flirt with men, I thought it was adorable. It saddened me when you exclaimed that her sleeping a lot was a positive thing. Although she has dementia, these are your last years with her. In between her forgetfulness are stories, her stories that are worth hearing, even if you have heard them a hundred times. One day she will be gone and those stories will be all you have left.
Suggestions
This is written from the perspective on how dementia impacts the family in the form of annoyances. It would be nice to have a little more substance, since this is an article. By substance I mean maybe resources that help families who are dealing with this, scientific reasoning of why those with the disorder do what they do, how doctors say family should handle loved ones, suggested counseling services etc.
There is also an issue with your formatting. Paragraphs are not spaced and some are moved awkwardly mid-sentence. This sometimes happens when you copy/paste from another writing program. Once you give it a readover you will see what I'm talking about.
Thank you for sharing your writing. Remember, these are just the thoughts of one person. It is up to you, the writer, to determine which advice to apply. Hopefully my thoughts on your writing have been helpful. If you get around to making any corrections, hopefully you will let me know and I will up my rating according to your corrections.
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