You bring up a lot of good points. But there are many, many foster homes out there that are absolutely horrible. Sadly, many of them are just about as bad, if not worse in some ways, then what the children have been through- trust me. I know this first hand.
Yes, the foster care system has made many giant strides in the last few years, but they still have a long way to go. We had a case in Florida, not to long back (a couple of years), where they just realized, "Hey, a little 5 yo is missing in the foster system." This little girl fell straight through huge cracks- the foster parents had murdered her- and it was a while before they even realized she was missing.
And of course the children are not to blame- but when they get on up close and into their teen years, and have been treated like crap all of their lives- tossed from one place to another, abused by many people in many different ways- especially by the very ones who were suppose to be looking after their well-being- they get hard. Can you blame them? They lose trust in not only the system, but all organized systems (court, foster, school...) And they don't trust the system, because they can not trust the people who make up that system, therefore, making them lose trust in human kind. Yes, some who are even put through such trials, somehow come out okay. Believe me though- they still have a lot running through their head, and they'll spend many years trying to figure things out and trying to hide their lack of self-confidence, maybe by even over-compensating with seeming overly-confident.
On the other hand- you're quite right; they're are many good homes out there. Thank goodness for homes like yours, where the people inside of it truly care for the children who come under their roof. It's people like you who may not only save the life of that child, but may save many upon many lives. You never know what your love alone, may have kept that one child from doing or becoming
Thank you.
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stamping up and down
stomping up and down
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movies in a row, in which
care of a child. You
care of a child, you
called to do it.
called to do so.
If foster care had been around when I was a kid, I should have been in it.
Foster homes have been around for quite a while. I don't know how old you are- but I'm 44 (next month), and believe me, foster homes were around then, and a long, long time before. Even before they were called foster homes, they did have foster houses (similar to work houses)
who's lives are chaos
whose lives are in chaos
parents just is wrong!
parents, is just wrong!
Please never quit sharing your personal stories and feelings with us. It is ports like yours that I greatly enjoy visiting. You're a very special person and your writing has touched my heart and soul.
Tracey
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